What to do if the world ends? (Black Men and Survival)

 

This weekend I watched an excellent News Expose by VICE called “A World in Disarray” (Link Here). It’s a special report aimed at showing you those regions in the world that could spark WWIII and how the U.S. is involved. Needless to say we are close to serious conflict on many fronts and shit could pop off at any moment.

What you also see in this documentary is the extreme loss of civilian life during these conflicts. You see cities and families destroyed and it made me realize something…

… If WWIII were to pop off and the conflict lands on U.S. soil I would have ZERO idea what to do. I haven’t the slighted idea how to survive during a war. I would be just as hapless as those Rwandan/Sudanese/Syrian refugee. And I would also be relying solely on the government/military to survive.

I don’t like that and you shouldn’t either.

I also came to the realization that as a whole folk don’t have the skills to survive in a post war world. What if there was a nuclear war? What if your state was besieged? What if half the population died in a year from a Virus and civilization as we know it ends?

Yeah I don’t know if id survive either. All of the skills I have are mostly only useful in a modern society where conflict doesn’t exist on the level of the Middle East for example. I imagine that most of us don’t have those old world skills of survival and that’s a problem.

Here are things you need to know in order to survive if the world ends:

Step 1: Take Everything into Consideration

1. Know the area.Is it safe for you move into a different territory? Does it have fallout shelters or reliable sources of supplies? Of course, planning ahead can be most reliable because if a person knows everything about a place, it can be an advantage point. The following are the two common environments of survival, urban and rural. Both are discussed in the following steps.

2. Be aware that urban cultures prove very difficult living conditions during prewar, wartime, and postwar times.The huge population living in a city can’t always run from war. Sickness, disease, low supplies, and no food or water make conditions terrible to live in. However, there is an advantage to being in an urban area; empty homes and buildings provide concealment and cover, and they can hold large camps for soldiers or civilians caught up in the violence. You can also build anything from materials found or recycled from homes, which can protect a city or build more camps when the area is under siege. Disadvantages include:

  • Panic is obviously an issue, and while ridiculous and unorganized, it happens. (Applies to early hours.).
  • There may be hundreds, possibly millions, of dead people; this presents a problem for health, and it smells too. (Applies all the time.).
  • The place is a magnet for survivors. (Applies after things have settled down.)
  • The debris left behind is a recipe for a very noisy day. (Applies after things have settled down.)
  • Looters are everywhere. (Applies all the time.)

3. Know what to expect in a rural environment. This is where food is made, raw materials are produced, military bases are built, and the greatest weapon mankind has made, nukes, are in the rural zone, one of the most safest places you can be (for a while). The low density makes it ideal for survival, but the skill and knowledge that people know in the rural zone makes it difficult for urban survivors, unless, you can match that. The advantages include:

  • Food is produced here, thus allowing a source of food. (Applies depending on conditions).
  • Bombs have very low chance of hitting here, unless a nuclear silo is present. (Applies rarely, depending on conditions.)
  • The raw materials are usually produced here. (Applies depending on conditions.)
  • Somebody is bound to know some sort of skill that aids survival. (Applies depending on area present.)

4. Be aware of the disadvantages of the rural situation too. These includes:

  • Living near a nuclear silo. (Just get out of there.)
  • Looters that may or may not have experience on the rural zone. (Applies depending on conditions.)
  • An ideal place for any sort of survivor. (Applies all the time.)

5. Consider the population. The population, or pop. for short, is an important factor. Start studying the people who live in your area. Are they psychopaths? Kleptomaniacs? Survivalists? Extremists? Whatever they may be, learning the nature of the people is important. You never know if they have some sort of skill you don’t know or maybe they have a history of something that can be potentially lethal.

6. Plan things out. History shows that a well thought out plan often has success. Through demonstrations, it is proven true. It holds true to this day. So start planning for the incoming war(s). Take in everything in consideration. The following are examples:

  • The resource is abundant in the pre-war phase, so you need to take this while you still can. Find as many people you trust as you can.
  • So little can be found in the war zone. You need as many supplies as possible to survive, but don’t focus on just gathering supplies; focus on finding a reliable source of supply production too.
  • Somebody needs to have a skill on something, otherwise the group can’t survive enough.
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Step 2: Arming Up

Good, now for some reason(s), your area is fit for survival. You need to start hiring somebody to get started. This section will help you benefit from early preparations.

Start hiring. You need people to help you survive a war. Sometimes you need someone who has a survival skill you need.

1. Adopt brand new skills. Skills that can give you invaluable survival abilities are very important. The following recommended list of skills are useful to learn:

  • For Home: Maintenance, management, first aid and construction.
  • For fighting others: Gun knowledge, close range experience, and tactics mastery.

2. Get your weapons. A weapon is essential for the war. Remember these words: Simple weapons are better than paramilitary weapons.

3. Be aware! Anything can happen, for example: Russia and U.S. have territorial disputes over the Antarctic Ocean. Even the tiniest thing can trigger a World Wide War that spans over Europe.

 

Step 3: What to do in The War

The war has just begun and you have successfully managed to put together a team of survivalists. Now, but the question is: Do you have what it takes to survive?

1. Get out of the way. The war begins, shots and screams fill the air, and death begins raining upon all like arrows shooting down to Leonidas and the 300 Spartans. The first hours of chaos shall be marked with mass looting and shooting. The best way to escape such madness is following Survival Rule 3 and eventually, you would be V.I.S. of chaos.

2. Survive! Surviving the first hours is just the beginning, the real chaos ensues when the enemy versus your country begins, and there is almost no telling if the war will end until then, survival is a must.

  • Form alliances. Whether friends, family or enemies, forming alliances will help your survival, they will help you in times of need and you must help them in times of need.
  • Keep in contact with your guys. Your country will do as much as possible to help you, and your team when they occupy the area. Take as many resources with you before they are pushed back by the enemy.
  • It is the most riskiest attempt to gather resources, it is the most likely way of you getting killed by a man/woman/child and worst of all, it can put your head on a “Wanted” poster.
  • Resistance against the enemy. The most likely way to be killed by a machine gunner of your enemy. Resistance can be deadly if you’re living in an area occupied by the enemy.

Step 4: After the War

You survived. The war has been won or lost, either way, it is the best time for you to start a new life somewhere. The aim of this section is to restore your sanity, and help you survive in a brand new harsh terrain.

1. Make sure of it.Is the enemy really gone at all? Before you raise your hopes up, try checking it first. Many people who thought the war was over often were met with death. So try to check first.

2. Restore your sanity. Restore it by doing things you did before the war. Such as reading a book you liked before the war started, limiting your stress, having some fun with the surviving members of your group, having alone time and overall, having some fun. Anything that can help you calm your nerves after long fought war.

3. Make your decision. Although you may have survived, it is not yet over. Like WW2, some soldiers of your country or your enemies are still combating the survivors (For example, http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Japanese_holdout) on the destroyed terrain. You need to choose whether to stay and fight or run and hide. You could consider the benefits and problems that might/may occur but it’s your decision, and you must choose one.

  1. Make your plan, again. Depending on your choice, a plan is required to pull your action to battles. Just be careful. You’re not the only veteran.
  2. You did it! You survived the war! Rejoice! A war of a magnitude this large may never happen again, or will it?

Courtesy of Wikihow – How to Survive a War

 

Top Five Things Black Men Get Wrong in the Bedroom (Part 1)

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Fellas if you are anything like me you probably think that you are the SHIT in the bedroom. Honestly how many men do you know that would admit to being bad in the sack…?

Yeah Me Either

But according to our women we all aren’t all 10’s in the love making department. In fact we apparently have a lot of issues pleasing our women. So in an attempt to get better I have queried every women that would answer me on this topic…

What are some things that Black Men get wrong in the bedroom?

In this 5 part series I will attempt to highlight those Top 5 ways that we get it wrong and I will also attempt to provide solutions to these issues.

Top Five Ways things Black men get wrong in the bedroom:

  1. Lack of Familiarity with the Vagina (Part 1)
  2. ? (Part 2)
  3. ? (Part 3)
  4. ? (Part 4)
  5. ? (Part 5)

Honorable Mention: Penis Size

Surprisingly most women didn’t mark this as a concern. Apparently the “little guys” are finding ways to overcome their deficiency by doing things other than penetration. Their lack of size also is overcome by penetrating from different angles (more on that later). They also apparently are more affectionate which goes a long way for women.

Lack of familiarity with the Vagina

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Dealing with a woman’s vagina should not be like a treasure hunt but apparently for some men it is.

 

 

One of my female friends told me that “some men just don’t know where the clitoris is.”…

…that is crazy to me being that it is 2018 but I believe her.

What it tells me is that if you don’t know where the clit is you probably don’t care much for your partner (which happens).

But having said all of that if you STILL don’t know here are two diagrams of the vagina and the sex relevant areas.

Diagram of Vagina’s Erotic Zones Internal
Diagram of Vagina’s Erotic Zones External

 

Now that you can identify the various components of the vagina, you need to know what parts are the relevant pleasure zones during sex. Of the twelve ways a women can orgasm seven potentially involve the vagina (anus included). Those orgasm types are:

  1. Clitoris – Orgasm through stimulation of the clitoris
  2. G-Spot – Orgasm through stimulation of the small spongy area above the vagina wall
  3. Cervix – Orgasm through applying pressure to the Cervix
  4. U-Spot – Orgasm through stimulation of the area around the Urinary Opening (squirting)
  5. Anal ­­– Orgasm through stimulation of the anus
  6. Blended Orgasm – Orgasm through stimulating more than one area at a time
  7. Multiple Orgasms – Multiple orgasms come in two forms: sequential (one right after the other, with rest time in between) and serial (one right after another)

Here are a few video tutorials on how you can help her achieve the big O:

Hand Stimulation Techniques For Explosive Orgasms

http://www.rebelcircus.com/blog/hand-stimulation-techniques-explosive-orgasms/

Basic Tips For Going Down On Her

G-Spot Orgasms: Tips and Techniques to Stimulate Her

Now fellas I know you will feel pressure in trying to make her achieve these orgasm types and that would be a mistake. Before you rush off and try to go ham on these Zones make sure you know who your partner is and what she likes. If she isn’t comfortable with her body or not relaxed the achievement of most of these will be next to impossible. You have to ensure that she is relaxed and aroused before you can begin to see results.

Also make sure that everything you do to her body is done with focus and intent. The Focus and Intent should always be about pleasing her. That’s the only real way to ensure that she is satisfied.

 

P.S. Some things you shouldn’t do to the vagina:

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Do Not Bite IT – I have heard women say men have used their teeth during oral sex. Why, why and why? Fellas I doubt that it feels good

Don’t Ignore the Clit – I have also heard the complaint that some men spend a lot of time licking everything BUT the clit during oral sex. Not wise considering that the majority of the nerves in the vagina are located in the clit. Which means she probably doesn’t feel much bro! FOCUS!

Rabbit Sex – Fellas I know you probably have learned most of your sexual technique from porn. Which is fine, most women probably do that same but… Just because you see Wesley Pipes pump her vagina into submission doesn’t mean that’s what works for her. Remember in Porn they shoot for what looks good on camera not for what feels good for her. So the next time you decide you want to beat it up remember, changing up the pace can go a long with towards making her vagina happy!

Tend to your fingers – putting dirty fingers or unclipped nails in her vagina is no Bueno. Your fingernails trap numerous types of bacteria and should be sanitized. Unclipped nails can cause her harm internally. The one thing you don’t want to hear from her is OWWWWW or Ouch. Handle that fellas.

 

 

Valentine’s Day Tips (Black Men and Romance Part 2)

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Every Valentine’s Day I hear folk on social media shitting on the holiday made for love. The most common phrases are “I don’t celebrate V-day because…” or “V-day was made just for folk to spend more money”.

When I hear those phrases I instantly think that he doesn’t want to spend his money on a women he doesn’t really care for or that she has never really had V-day done properly.

With all that being said I personally LOVE Valentine’s day. It’s like Christmas but with the women as the headliner instead of the kids. It’s the one opportunity within the year that you can justify going all out for her and also find tremendous deals with the V-day packages available.

If you are struggling to figure out what to do for your sweet this V-day don’t fret I got you! Here are three VIP tips that will ensure that she know just how much you care for her on her day!

Provide an Experience

 

What I like to do is find the best bed and breakfast in the area and go! You normally can find a package that throws in Dinner, Champagne, Roses, etc.… For a reasonable price. Also a lot of Bed and Breakfasts are within a reasonable distance of an entertainment center where you can take her to a play, comic show, concert, etc.…

Here is a good source for B&B’s that I use to find what’s available in the area:

Bed and Breakfast.com

Here is a sight that I use to find premium boutique hotels and B&B’s. Excellent properties on here:

Small Luxury Hotels

And if traveling to another city and you want to stay within its core I would use nothing but:

Hotwire

Just put the star level at 4 and up and pick the area that your research tells you there are things to do and hit pay now! It has never let me down in any city that I’ve been in and I am sure you will have similar results.

Pro Tip: Pack her bag while she is at work and pick her up and hit the road. Tell her you are taking her someplace special and she will enjoy the extra surprise.

She only likes gifts?

 

Ok you know your lady and she only accepts gifts and cash on her special days. Don’t worry, I got something for you too.

I know getting gifts can break ya pockets, but it doesn’t have to. There are many websites out there where you can find name brand crap on discount. My favorites are:

Higher End: Gilt.com

Budget: Fashionova

Something Different – Subscription Box

Well there are plenty of these things for women and you can pair these with an experience or another gift. Here are the best imho:

Box of Style

Avenue A | Adidas

Onyx Box

Curl Kit

Do Black Men Have PTSD?

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If you are a black man over 30 and have grown up poor there is a strong chance that you have PTSD.

Dont believe me? Check this out…

PTSD or Post Traumatic Stress Disorder is a mental health condition that’s triggered by a terrifying event — either experiencing it or witnessing it. Symptoms may include flashbacks, nightmares and severe anxiety, as well as uncontrollable thoughts about the event.

Most people who go through traumatic events may have temporary difficulty adjusting and coping, but with time and good self-care, they usually get better. If the symptoms get worse, last for months or even years, and interfere with your day-to-day functioning, you may have PTSD.

Here is a graphic that shows some of the events that may cause PTSD:

I don’t know about you but I have definitely suffered the effects from #3 and #4 on the list. And with all due respect to the soldiers out there I think I’ve suffered from #2 (combat exposure) as well.

Everything on this list is common in the hood.

I mean have been attacked, shot at, seen a murder, seen violence on almost every level you can think of. I know a lot of us share that experience. Everybody that I grew up with grew up in a dysfunctional household in a city filled with dysfunction. The dysfunction had become so normalized you have zero idea that the rest of America doesn’t live that way.

In order to survive these experiences a lot of us have developed these Hyper Masculine personas as a defense mechanism. We were taught that if you weren’t an Alpha then you are pussy!

Although we have survived those traumatic events and dysfunction but the effects still linger. There were things we had to do to survive and habits that we have picked up that are not very healthy.

  • For instance we all LOVE to root for the bad guy. Probably because we can relate to them (shared struggle) and our mistrust for law enforcement.
  • We don’t treat our women the best because we grew up around ratchets and rarely saw men treat them right.
  • We have carried with us archaic methods of raising our children when we know it didn’t work on most of the people we grew up with. Including ourselves!
  • We never got good at reading because we were to worried about the shooters, family members, the neighborhood bully, eating, etc… So that when we are finally get out of that environment we are far behind our counterparts
  • We never could afford nice clothes, gadgets, cars, etc.. and now that’s what we spend all of our money on.

Those are not the only effects our PTSD has on us. See graphic below:

But it is not all doom and gloom. Those who are able to recognize the trauma that they dealt with and can take the positives from their experiences and forgive and forget the past transgressions come out with the strength and determination to be great.

I always say there is not much I could go through that would trump the shit i have dealt with in the past. So now when I meet a moment of adversity i am completely un-bothered . Because of my trauma I have become adaptable, altruistic and empathetic. All valuable tools you need to become the BOSS we all like to tell ourselves we are.

This interview of Jeezy on Everyday Struggle typifies what a better black man does once he has overcome his trauma. Salute to Jeezy for being a better black man!

Do not let your past hold you from your future

Are you ready to be a better man? Fuck with me then!

#Bebetterthanthem

Black Men and Fashion: THE SUIT

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Every man should have at least ONE suit. And every man who is trying to be better should probably have around three (I only have one oops) and here’s why:

Black Men VALUE Respect – there is something about a man in suit that commands respect from the ignorant. The ignorant instantly thinks a man is better than them when they wear a suit. They would never admit it. As a matter of fact nobody even talks about it. But a man in a suit gets a psychological advantage in a lot of situations.

Black Men Want to be Fly – I don’t know what it is but in MOST of our DNA we have the need to be fly.  Maybe it started with our humble beginnings and ends with us finally being able to consume. But we all know the story, there’s a reason why we spend most of our income annually; Being Fly!

Black Women love to see us in them – another thing that people see in a man wearing a suit is POWER. Fellas if you do it right and get the right suit for your body type you will instantly develop a cone of influence! You will look and more importantly feel IMPORTANT. And homie, rock that shit once and awhile and see how the women respond to you when you change it up.

Suit Buying Guide

I am no expert so read this:

Men’s Suit Buying Guide: Everything You Need To Know (Click Here)

Where do I Buy my suits?

I personally am not beholden to any brand, I shop for deals. I refuse to pay full price for pretty much anything and a suits no different. But I got my last suit at a Banana Republic Outlet store. I got a suit pretty much like this (see below) that fit almost perfectly off the rack for under $200. Right after Cyber Monday too I think.

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Go ahead and get yourself some fly ass shoes too. This is who I fuck with on that tip!

 Gilt (click here)

While you are at it get some accessories to complete your look. I get my ties, pocket squares and other accessories from this monthly subscription box called SprezzaBox.

Sprezzabox (click here)

Enjoy Fellas and if you would like to hear more tips like this shoot me a comment or hit the like button.

Also if you have any black owned companies that can make a nice suit let me know and I will shout them out.