Fellas if you are anything like me you probably think that you are the SHIT in the bedroom. Honestly how many men do you know that would admit to being bad in the sack…?
Yeah Me Either
But according to our women we all aren’t all 10’s in the love making department. In fact we apparently have a lot of issues pleasing our women. So in an attempt to get better I have queried every women that would answer me on this topic…
What are some things that Black Men get wrong in the bedroom?
In this 5 part series I will attempt to highlight those Top 5 ways that we get it wrong and I will also attempt to provide solutions to these issues.
Top Five Ways things Black men get wrong in the bedroom:
- Lack of Familiarity with the Vagina (Part 1)
- Lack of Foreplay (Part 2)
- Finishing to Quickly (Part 3)
- ? (Part 4)
- ? (Part 5)
Finishing to Quickly
I remember growing up and hearing the “1 Minute Man” song by Missy Elliot and thinking that I NEVER wanna be that guy!
Just the way the song starts alone:
It sounded exactly like the thing that would have women running away from you and who wants that? So I always strived to last longer than a minute.
Having said that I definitely have dealt with those moments when I came up short. There was this one time that I finally got to get with my long time crush….
… I decided not to tell that story. It wasnt a good for your boy! Lol
I doubt that any guy that actually cares about his partner is busting off fast on purpose. Men suffer from premature ejaculation (PE) for many reasons. They can be too sensitive, anxious and in some cases don’t know when they are cumming until it’s too late!
Here are a few techniques you can use to keep the kids from leaving the building too early:
Use a thicker condom – if you have an issue with too much sensitivity this may work for you. Stop buying “thin” or “skin like” condoms. What you want is a thicker condom to decrease sensitivity and hopefully help you last longer.
Take your time (stop/start method) – Remember the goal is her satisfaction gentlemen. You are a dude and should get yours regardless so it isn’t a race to see who finishes first.
When you feel yourself getting to the point where you are going to cum. STOP. Now a doctor would tell you to resume after around 30 to 60 seconds. When you feel like you are going to cum again STOP. Keep doing this over and over again and it should improve your stamina going into future sessions.
I know stopping and starting can be awkward and annoying to your partner. So what I like to do is communicate exactly why I am stopping and then instead of waiting 30/60 seconds to begin again I just do something else like putting on a bib and going to work!
Squeeze method – The same as the start/stop method but instead of pulling out and waiting you squeeze your penis to cut off the flow. If done in time you can stop the eruption. Problem with this method is your erection may go with it. Make sure you are turned on enough where that doesn’t happen if you wanna try this method.
Pills and Ointments – Don’t use them unless there is no other hope (erectile dysfunction or something). They all come with side effects that can cause long term and short term issues.
Alcohol – Another tool that may work for some is Alcohol. Alcohol is a vasodilator which means it makes your blood vessels wider which improves blood flow. This can help you maintain an erection. Alcohol also works to desensitize your extremities. This includes your penis; which means with less sensitivity you may last longer. I won’t get into the adverse health effects here but there are a gang of them.
Marijuana – Man has the American Government done a fantastic job of sullying the good works that this miracle plant (only been illegal since 1970). There is even audio out there where Nixon states that he is making it a higher priority drug because “all the Jews want it legalized”. Here is that audio actually:
If marijuana is legal in your state then this may be what’s going to get you to where you are trying to go. First you need to find out what strains do the job (indica/sativa/hybrid) and you should be on your way. What I find marijuana to do is help you focus and pay more attention to what you are doing. Thus giving you more control over your body.