Month: October 2017

The other day my home girl was at a wine festival on snapchat and the caption read “Where are all the fine men at?” And my first thought was it must have been the city that she lives in; because men go to wine festivals RIGHT??? I mean we like wine and shit too don’t we? And then I thought about the times that I had been to a wine festival and realized I NEVER was alone…. ….I was with a woman! Are men really that clueless about where to meet good women? Probably!!! Before I get to my list I would like to first define Wifey (in my terms). Wifey – A woman who you are unashamed of bringing around friends or family and also has those qualities that make you want to be a better man. Here is my list

Honorable Mention

Everywhere!!!

Woman do everything and go everywhere. And i mean everywhere; sports bars, strip clubs, sporting events, etc… That’s where i meet them anyways.

5. Dating App/Site I bet 85% of single black women have been on either a dating app or site. So statistically speaking Wifey has to be there right? To find her you will definitely have to weed through the white girls, ratchets, girls you friend zone, dinner pimps and lost souls just to find her. 4. Speed Dating Fellas if I thought more people did this I would put it at #1. Speed Dating is the Dim Sum of dating. You get to have a small plate of 8 to 10 women all in one meal. And EVERY SINGLE one of them is there because they are seriously looking for a relationship. I know this because speed dating isn’t cheap. Average cost is probably between 20-50 dollars so any woman who pays for that is serious. Also, the women who go to speed dating are probably career women who don’t have much time for bullshit. She wont have a heavy social media presence unless she owns her own business and did you hear me when I said you can talk to 10 of them in one sitting! Pro tip: If your macking skills are bad, speed dating is the perfect place to practice. The old saying “You know if you will have sex with someone within moments of meeting them.” Fellas work on that initial moment during your speed dating practice sessions and you will be a Romeo in no time. Trust Me 3. Wine/Food Festivals All of these events are filled with women and couples and have a limited amount of single male participation (less competition). Every weekend I am on snap I see women posting vids from their wine festival excursions with all their fine ass friends! Women who go to wine/food festivals tend to be educated, open minded and fun. Also you will get the opportunity to expand your IQ on wine and food. IQ expansion is always good fellas. Next spring or summer make sure to check out a few. 2. Networking Event/Mixer These events vary depending on the group mixing but the idea is to attend a Networking Event/Mixer that aligns with a passion of yours. For example if you work in business or want to a networking event is perfect for you. You will have the opportunity to meet many likeminded women. 1. School The ultimate place to meet wifey. I think the most sustaining relationships begin in school. Most of the folk that I know got married to someone they met in school have lasted a while. And most of my friends met “wifey” there. The reason is because not only do you meet likeminded women but you get to see them navigate the world daily before you even talk to them. So you can learn A lot about a person in school before talking whilst in all the other instances mentioned you would just be meeting the person. So the evaluation period is longer and also expectations are low. The women you meet in school aren’t the ones frantic for marriage (that happens around 35). So fellas if you are still in school or know of that one who got away from your school begin your search there. I am sure you will like what you find.

Someone asked me recently to write about my views on BLACK MEN and Manhood. That particular topic could spawn 100+ posts alone because there are so many levels to unwrap. But I do think I can sum up those “traits” that real BLACK MEN should avoid at all cost.

To do that I have picked 5 BLACK MEN that have something about them that we should never know anything about. Check out this list below:

5 Raymond Lewis

“Plays Both Sides”

Have you ever heard the phrase “If you dont stand for anything you stand for nothing” This phrase sums up Mr. Lewis quite well. Pick a side bruh!!!

Raymond Lewis is a topic in barber shops across America. I wont get into the adjectives used to describe the brother but here’s the story as it stands today.

Many NFL fans were surprised to see ex-Baltimore Ravens star Ray Lewis join his former team  to kneel with them during the national anthem. Many assumed Lewis, who has criticized Colin Kaepernick’s decision to kneel during the anthem to protest racial injustice in the United States, dropped down on both knees to show unity in the face of divisive and incendiary comments made by President Trump about protesters in the NFL.

It turns out that wasn’t the case, however. As Lewis made clear in a passionate exchange on Showtime’s “Inside the NFL” that his decision to join his former team on the field and kneel during the anthem was to “simply honor God in the midst of chaos.”

See exactly what he said here:

Now bruh I have no issue with you wanting to pray and whatever but don’t fawk up what these REAL MEN and WOMAN are trying to accomplish. It is okay that you love football more than being black but remember it was us “black” folk who were behind you when you were charged with murder.

The bottom line is this. Brothers and Sisters if you don’t agree with the work that folk are putting in complain in the comforts of your own home. Our initiatives can’t survive with open decisiveness from those with the biggest platforms. Choose a side, stick with it and don’t back down when the consequences come a calling!

4 Suge (Sugar) Knight

“Bully”

Almost every black person you know grew up around a Sugar Knight type Bully, Big, Ugly, Mean and destined to die or end up in jail at a young age.

Here is a list of Sugars “Bullying” Tactics and Consequences (I know the list is long, skip to the end and you will still get the point):

• In October 1987, Knight was arrested for domestic violence after he assaulted his girlfriend and cut off her ponytail on the street.
• On October 31, 1987, Knight was arrested in Las Vegas, Nevada for auto theft, carrying a concealed weapon and attempted murder. He had allegedly shot a man three times while stealing his car. He pleaded guilty to a misdemeanor charge, and received two years probation.
• In 1996, Knight was sent to prison for a probation violation and in February 1997 was sentenced to nine years in prison. He was released on August 6, 2001.
• In 2003 he was sent to prison again for violating parole when he struck a parking lot attendant. Death Row Records’ income rapidly declined due to Knight’s incarceration. It managed to save itself from complete bankruptcy by releasing archived Snoop Dogg compilation albums and posthumous Tupac albums. Despite signing new artists, Knight never released any of their albums.
• In 2006 Knight was engaged in another dispute with former friend and ex-associate Snoop Dogg after Snoop insulted him in an interview with Rolling Stone magazine.
• On May 10, 2008, Knight was involved in an altercation involving a monetary dispute outside of a nightclub in Hollywood. He was knocked out for 3 minutes, taken to the hospital, and reportedly did not cooperate with the Los Angeles Police Department (LAPD).
• On August 27, 2008, Knight was arrested on drug and aggravated assault charges after leaving a Las Vegas strip club. When police arrived on the scene, Knight was beating his girlfriend of three years, Melissa Isaac, and brandishing a knife. Reports also alleged that he was under the influence of both ecstasy and hydrocodone.
• As part of an October 30, 2008 bankruptcy claim, Knight also filed a lawsuit against Kanye West and his associates. The lawsuit concerns an August 2005 shooting at West’s pre-Video Music Awards party, where Knight was wounded by a gunshot to the upper leg.The lawsuit cites damages of mental and physical pain caused by the shooting, costs of surgery, loss of income and the theft of a 15-carat (3.0 g) US$147,000 diamond earring.
• In February 2009, Knight was taken to Scottsdale Healthcare Osborn to be treated for face injuries he received during an altercation at a private party in the W Scottsdale Hotel, where Knight was reportedly punched by Robert L. Carnes Jr. after exchanging words with him.
• On February 8, 2012, Knight was arrested in Las Vegas, after police found marijuana in his car and several warrants for prior traffic violations.
• On August 24, 2014, Knight was shot at a pre-Video Music Awards party hosted by Chris Brown in Los Angeles. Although shot six times, he was able to walk from the venue to an ambulance. His injuries required surgery.
• On October 29, 2014, Knight and comedian Katt Williams were arrested for the theft of a camera from photographer Leslie Redden in an incident which occurred in Beverly Hills on September 5. Both men were charged with second degree robbery.
• On January 29, 2015, Knight was involved in a hit-and-run incident that left one man dead and another hospitalized in Compton, California. Knight turned himself in to the Los Angeles County Sheriff’s Department early the next morning and was arrested on suspicion of murder. Killed was Terry Carter, co-founder of Heavyweight Records and a friend of Knight. The second victim, filmmaker Cle Sloan, suffered a mangled foot and head injuries.Witnesses claim that Knight followed the men after an argument on the Straight Outta Compton film set to a burger stand parking lot, and that the collision looked intentional.
• According to Eminem‘s bodyguard, who is known as Big Naz, Knight allegedly tried to have Eminem killed.
• On August 2, 2017, he was indicted for threatening to murder F. Gary Gray, the director of Straight Outta Compton.

The reason why you shouldn’t want to be a bully should be evident by Sugar Knights run ins with the law and near deaths. The UNIVERSE always finds a way to deal with bullies. They are almost always dealt with. For you; a young black man that means you will either die young or spend a lot of time in jail. DONT!!!

3 Orenthal James “O. J.” Simpson

“Uncle Tom”

The term “Uncle Tom” is used as a derogatory epithet for an excessively subservient person, particularly when that person perceives their own lower-class status based on race. It is similarly used to negatively describe a person who betrays their own group by participating in its oppression, whether or not they do so willingly.The term has also, with more intended neutrality, been applied in psychology in the form “Uncle Tom syndrome“, a term for the use of subservience, appeasement and passivity to cope with intimidation and threats.

The transgressions of OJ have been well documented and I wont rehash any of that here. But his love hate relationship with the black community is best depicted in the HBO 30 for 30 special OJ Made in America (Click here) on Espn.  Well loved by the black community in the 80s and 90s OJ chose to dissociate himself with us to further his “American Dream”.

When the opportunities came for OJ to join other athletes in protest for our rights he stayed out of it in order to continue to cultivate his white relationships. Subsequently he thought his social status, fancy Brentwood address and celebrity status made him immune to being a black man in America.

And every time he has faced legal troubles he has turned to the black community for support. He is lucky we are the most forgiving people on earth. We should be done with him by now but I doubt that we are.

OKAY!!!

2 Ray Rice

“Woman Beater”

Do I even need to explain? Just watch this video and don’t do anything like this EVER! ( I will do a full post on this subject later)

1 Sheriff David Clarke

“EVIL”

So I am not the type of man who reacts off of what people on social media say. Well I mean I react but I like to react with my own opinion formed by a bit of research. So when I first heard folk call this dude a coon and uncle tom all over the internet. But i gave him the benefit of the doubt and did a little bit of research.

And you know what?

He  IS  A  FAWKING  COOON!!! 

He is the worst kind too. Ole black negro with decades of experience in probably the most racist police department in the country. Do you guys know that this dude is out here calling for HARDER sentences on petty drug crimes. Check this out:

I saw this dude and instantly realized that there is something we don’t know about him! (shout out to Solluminati)

And then I saw THIS!!!!

This was an excellent video by the way but I wanna let yall in on something….

….. Did yall know that this fool did all of this just to get famous????

I dont like this dude. I think if I saw him we’d have to throw hands. (Im only serious)

And then there was this

His opportunistic ass has found his way over to nestle up under the bosom of masta. And is probably now getting ready to  reap his vengeance on the negros that bullied him when he was a child. Be warned my brothers and sistas. This dude here is TROUBLE!